Home⇛Psychology and Education: A Multidisciplinary Journal⇛vol. 22 no. 1 (2024)

It’s Not You, It’s Me: The Stress after Triggering the Separation in Romantic Relationship among Bisexual Individuals

Katrina  Espayos | Angela Mae Alejo | Andrea Jan Manaloto | Jhoselle Tus

Discipline: others in psychology

 

Abstract:

This study aims to investigate the stresses of the initiator during the termination of their romantic relationship among Bisexual individuals. This study uses phenomenological research design that utilizes phenomenological analysis, the purpose of this research is to understand further the experiences of being an initiator of the breakup inside the bisexual community. This study’s participants are 15 bisexual individuals who have initiated the break up with their previous relationship and reside within District Five (5) of Bulacan (Balagtas, Bocaue, Guiguinto, and Pandi). The researchers also acquired a semi-structured interview guide that included questions pertaining to their participants’ experiences, challenges, and coping strategies of bisexual initiators of the breakup. The findings of this study revealed that bisexual initiators of the breakup experience anger, grief, depressive symptoms, and experience trying to fix the relationship. Aside from that, this study also reveals that bisexual initiators can feel regret, experience confusion about their gender, experience challenges within their previous relationship, and have bad good coping mechanisms, as well as finding a reason to reconnect with intrapersonal relationships.



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