Home⇛LPU-Laguna Journal of Arts and Sciences⇛vol. 4 no. 3 (2023)

Till Death Do Us Part: Measuring the Emotional Intelligence Level and Elements of Love among Heterosexual Filipino Engaged Couples towards Readiness for Marriage

Mary Glorie Anne Habacon | Allison Habacon

Discipline: Applied Psychology

 

Abstract:

A relationship is the initial starting point of any engaged couple within society. It entails the couple preparing for the next chapter of their life, marriage. However, before so, engaged couples should consider the emotional preparedness of one another as well as considering the presence of the different elements of love, such as intimacy, passion, and commitment, inside their relationship, as indicators that they are ready to take on the next challenge of their lives. Moreover, this study also wants to determine the emotional intelligence level, the elements of love, the level of readiness for marriage, the significant relationship and prediction of readiness for marriage in terms of emotional intelligence level, and elements of love, The study also proposed a seminar about emotional intelligence, elements of love, and readiness for a marriage of Filipino engaged couples. The researchers gathered 74 Filipino heterosexual couples from different Parochial churches in Calamba city, namely: Saint John the Baptist (Poblacion), Saint Augustine (Parian), Saint Peter and Paul (Palingon), and Saint Mary Magdalene (Looc), who were at least 18 years old. The study results show that passion is an element of love, and the readiness of heterosexual couples show a positive relevance towards one another, indicating that engaged couples are ready to take on the next chapter of their lives.



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